I think it is quite possible for a client to outgrow their therapist. It could be that the modality of therapy used was applicable for certain issues, but isn't as helpful for where a client is later on. If the therapist only works in one mode of therapy; I can see the effectiveness hitting an impasse of sorts in that case. It could be that the client is simply ready to move on; the actual need for therapy really isn't there any longer yet either the client or the therapist (or perhaps both) keep hanging on for fear of ending for some reason.
If I had continued seeing my most recent therapist much longer, I suspect we would have gotten burned out on each other because there really wasn't a need to be there. I enjoyed therapy with him. I learned a lot. I grew. But I also realized I was capable of handling life without needing his input and support any longer. There might have been a time in my life I would have kept going out of habit or fear of going it alone or simply because I liked him and his company and support, but fortunately I realized it was time to move on.
I've switched therapists a couple of times over the years for reasons such as moving and job changes, and what I discovered about subsequent effective therapists was that they each had something unique to offer me that the previous one didn't. If I had stayed with my original therapist, I wouldn't have progressed as far as I have. I'm sure of that. Not because he was a poor therapist, but what he was good at, what he helped me with, his perspective, was limited somewhat by his own skill set and the particular environment we were working in at the time. By moving on, I was able to benefit from a 2nd and then a 3rd very effective therapist who saw things through a fresh set of eyes, a different skill set, a slightly different perspective, that helped me grow and move forward.
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