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Old Sep 07, 2016, 06:04 PM
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Originally Posted by missbella View Post
In retrospect, I wish I'd been much more "difficult." My therapists gave me some ridiculous instructions about handling family which I obediently followed. The results were so disastrous and the fallout lasted the remainder of my parents' lifetimes. But worse, I was going against my own intuition, since I knew my family far better than the therapist did.

In another case, I became so swept in self-examination and magical thinking I was essentially in a meditation psychosis and lost valuable friends who rightly believed I was going crazy. I bet my therapists loved my compliance though.


I don't think not blindly following therapists' suggestions (or anyone else's for that matter) makes one difficult. I don't think obediently following everything to the book is the goal of therapy at all. One could have their own ideas how to live their lives yet not be difficult. I never think that speaking ones mind is the same as being difficult. Do therapists told you that you must follow their instructions?