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Old Sep 07, 2016, 07:24 PM
Sarmas Sarmas is offline
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Originally Posted by substancelessblue View Post
No email, and I feel like writing things down is even more terrifying than saying it. I may just say I'm feeling insecure with the relationship or something. I would probably have a panic attack if I told her about the time thing. I feel like she's really dropped the ball lately and I feel so unsafe.
I get what you mean. Just try your best to get it out there. I know it's tough because I had issues telling my T about the lateness thing. It only sort of came out when I was waiting for her one day for 20 min and then she came to me and asked me if I was planning on doing attending session. I told her then that I was there waiting for her and that I was waiting for 20 min. That never would've come out otherwise eventhough I was feeling it for so long. I also was upset about the no response with emails but I never voiced that. I didn't want to upset my T which is strange when I think that. I have the right to state what I feel like you do as well but I guess I was hoping she would change. Then to sit there and watch the same thing happen over and over again was tough. However I will say that I've was seeing her for many years and once we had that issue with her being late and me getting upset things were never the same. We had maybe three or four session tips after that and there was something there that was different and she acted different as well. So was it better or was it worse to have said something? I think we as clients should be able to voice ourselves without being afraid of what could happen or how things could change. I hope you can get the message across to the best of your ability. That's a hard task to do.
Thanks for this!
substancelessblue