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Old Sep 07, 2016, 08:24 PM
missbella missbella is offline
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Originally Posted by stopdog View Post
I think it would behoove almost every client to stop trying to not be difficult. I think therapy/therapists can reinforce the toxic idea that women who are not compliant must be shut down and punished unless they start being good girls. And that is ********. Women get to take up space, disagree, not be nice, get dirty, dress however they want and make their own decisions. No one, not even a therapist, gets to tell a woman she is difficult for not submitting to them.
I'd agree...in retrospect. However the "risk" of noncompliance can shatter the relationship, a risk some clients feel they can't afford. When I questioned or challenged my therapists they demonstrated their need to dominate through destructive dismissals and derision. They became quite destructive. The repercussions were extremely difficult at the time to shake off. I paid a large price for noncompliance.

Last edited by missbella; Sep 07, 2016 at 09:43 PM.
Thanks for this!
BudFox