I handled it two ways: One, I sweated it out by myself most of my life, from the time I was about 9 years old. Two, I had occasional flings, and two sexually empty marriages. I was not doing safe sex, and had a couple of irritating but minor STDs. Three, I married another bipolar!!!!!!!!!! Heaven on earth for 11 years!!!! (He was unipolar manic.) We called him "EverReady," and all I had to do was give him "the look" and we'd roll in the hay right then. I like being the instigator, but once I instigated, he was The Man!!!! Unfortunately, he gaslighted me and was sneakily abusive, so I finally divorced him. Besides, I criticized him unmercifically and yelled at him. He told me this revealing thing one time, "I don't get mad. I get even." Things disappeared, etc. Then I started meds and lost all my sexuality. That was actually fine with me!