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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
It wasn't a trick. It was a starting point for things to work on.
Very interesting session where my husband made it sound like we have a tiny issue and then I painted the picture of how hugely, deeply dysfunctional we are.
The therapist said I was being histrionic. I guess I was dramatic in explaining. I'm feeling like that adds to 'getting the book (of diagnoses) thrown at me. I don't care, as long as I can stop this hysteria. I said I am not hysterical as long as I am not in the bed or even in the house with my h now.
I am hoping we can take the time to really get to the bottom of it all and sort out how much is me truly having diagnoses, what is happening with him and me together, etc... I need to look into myself before I try to move on because what if I leave my h and then fall into just as unhappy a situation?
I am very thankful I am getting this time and help to sort things out.
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The therapist said you were being histrionic? That would make me look for a new marriage counselor... He shouldn't be labeling you like that. Plus, how does he know it's you being dramatic and not your H minimizing?
In the beginning of marriage counseling for me, I was generally the one bringing up all the issues, while H would just be like, "I wish she did the dishes more." So I'm sure I sounded like the dramatic one, but MC wasn't labeling anything. Eventually, he started pushing harder (partly at my request), and H started being more open about some issues he was having, too.