My partner won't even leave his parents, but I think that is just because he is comfortable with them. They tiptoe around him (at least they did before they grew old and sick), and did everything for him, so that he can work carefree on his dream job all day and not be interrupted by anything. Now he has to do most chores for them but he feels that he has to in return. There is no place for me in his life, though he claims there always is. Not that I can give him a lot of my time but at least I expect some support that is not just verbal or more often written in mail. Support is not when he writes you mail like "I hope you will be ok, wish you all the best". He thinks that's support. It's not. Support is to come to me when I am sad and make me a coffee or tea or bring me tiny chocolate (he has no money). Support is to call me and talk to me or come to my place and watch movie together. Or anything but supporting mail. I can get and I do such mail from anyone. I tried to tell him that but he does not get it. He says like "But I am supporting you what do you want?" or gets defensive. Like I am attacking him. When I told him it would be pleasant for me if we would go together somewhere for pancakes or tea, he said he has no money or time for that. Ok I would pay. Still no... he won't waste time on that. I am sooo tired.