Plus, now that I think of something you previously posted; it's most unfortunate that other family members are not being at all empathetic and understanding toward you. No matter. (though it hurts making it harder for you to heal) What matters in your marriage is can you be empathetic and understanding to each other? Can you forgive each other? Can you find ways to show each other that you care? It seem impossible when it's not happening. I wish marriage counselors could hypnotise people and make them go back to how they felt when they first saw each other. Also, stay away from family members who do not show any understanding towards you. People like that just make a toxic situation worse.