I probably started talking about sex with my T about 2-3 months into our relationship. I was getting out of a serious relationship when we started and one time I said something like, "I still fantasize about M all of the time" and next thing you know she said something about "Masturbation" without even batting an eye! That is a tough word for me to say and even harder to talk about but she made it all seem like we were talking about walking down the street or chewing gum. From then on, we've had lots of conversations about sex and it's been much easier and I feel less weird about it. I really think that any T with experience should be able to handle any sexual conversation just like any other conversation.

Maybe if you can't get the words out, write it down and have her read it the first time and then discuss it. I found that once she said the tough sex words aloud, it was easy for me to say them. Good luck!