I think it's a shame that Rubin can't see beyond behavior.

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"Why should I act like a child? Will it get you to stay?"

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yes, this is exactly what to look at and explore: the magical thinking around the feelings about the therapist being away. it goes much deeper than just reacting behaviorally. it's an insight into how our minds work. Wanting to keep T from going, attempting to hold onto T through mental processes which precede the behavior is interesting to look at.

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"Why should I act like a child? Will it get you to stay?"

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I have experienced this exactly. It was nearly impossble to admit it to myself when in the midst of it, yet at the moment I realized that my grief about her going to be away was about my thinking I could make her stay by holding onto her mentally was one of those insights that was immediately relieving. Magical thinking!