Hey Sunny,

I think that anything is possible. I also think that every therapy situation is individual. The work that is being done, where you are in that work, the relationship at that moment, how strongly attached you are to T, your childhood and how interruptions were handled, how supportive or present your parents may or may not have been; whether you had parents or not; whether you were alone a lot; -- there's soooo much that plays into a T's absence or vacation.

I'm sure it's possible for a T to overstate the effect his absence may have on a client but that has not been my experience and I have never heard of anyone complain about this. My T is very matter of fact also about scheduling including his vacations. He simply lets me know when he will be away.

I have been the one to bring up the difficulties his absence creates for me. So, I can't say that I fell apart because he overstated the importance of his vacation. It was simply a result of my attachment during this very sensitive time in my therapy.

Maybe this could be true if the T was not in touch with his own feelings, and was not as in touch with how close (or not) his client was to him and overestimated the attachment?

Interesting topic.