Michigan Dave,

If you're asking us for advice about which woman to choose in your dilemma, I don't know if we can help you there.

If you ARE able to see that your behavior is incredibly destructive both to yourself and others, I would like to encourage you to seek therapy and try to understand why you seem to be predisposed to cultivating such deceit and pain among people you claim to love and care about. At the moment, you seem to be a predator.

I was involved with a Sadistic Narcissist, and I'm not saying that you are a Narcissist but it might be worth exploring. This quiz is from here on Psych Central Narcissistic Personality Inventory - Psych Central

If you really do care about these people, you need to stop engaging them in your sickness right now.

This post deserves a trigger icon so if you can add it, that would be great.

-Lele