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Originally Posted by LeeeLeee
Xray,
Keep working through the feelings. Cry. Get some exercise. Fill your mind up with healing materials.
You can make it. You will love again. You will heal.
Do you have a therapist?
-Lele
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Originally Posted by ALC1211
I'm sure living in the house the two of you shared makes it harder, In my case, my ex made me leave, the house we shared, and I wasn't given any options I had to move 900 miles away and had to move in with my parents, couldn't afford a place of my own, Im on disability, moved in unfortunately with a controlling, mentally and emotionally abusive mother, who has been that way my entire life, so it makes my dealing with my break up that much harder... I wish I was living alone I think I could deal with all this much easier, My mother is constantly making comments about my ex, calling her names, saying bad things about her, all that, regardless, If I did get my heart broken, I don't hate her, I still lover her, and I don't want to hear all that and it makes things so much harder...and its none of her business, I'm a grown adult, Im 49 years old...let me deal how I want to deal...In my time...I completely understand.  |
Thank you for understanding. I'm sorry you are hurting too. And I know what you mean about your mom saying those things about your ex. My dad, while he means well, was doing the same thing. It made things worse and like you I don't hate my ex, in fact I'm still in love with him and hearing someone say such nasty things about him just made me want to pull away from my dad. He knows how it made me feel and has agreed to not talk about my ex unless I bring it up.
I think being in the house makes it harder for sure. I'm actively looking for a new place, but I've basically got it made there. My mom and step dad own it and the rent is cheap. If I move I'd be paying a lot more in rent and probably end up in apartment vs a house.
I'm sure there is a light at the end of this tunnel for us eventually. But I'm honestly scared to ever date or love again. I feel like I'll just be miserable and alone the rest of my life
