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Old Sep 09, 2016, 02:26 PM
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The fear of being alone exacerbates your grief exponentially.


If you can open your mind to the fact that being single is not the worst thing in the world, and that sometimes its actually a good thing to learn how to be alone, that being alone doesn't have to equal abject misery...Then maybe your fear will dissipate and the grief wont feel so paralyzing, and you wont be driven by desperation.


You can love again, that's if you even want to. But you have to get through this part of it first. Unfortunately we don't get to skip certain steps.


And as horrible as break ups are, they are survivable, part of getting to that point is distress tolerance, experiencing your feelings and allowing them to be, because they are valid. Grief is complicated, especially the type where there's no death involved, because the lack of finality leads to all sorts of windows being left open to our psyche.
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