why, I say you are better than that :-) you deserve much much more. he might be supportive and sympathetic NOW (when he is having fun flirting with you and there there is a possibility that you guys might sleep together...) but i'm wondering how supportive and sympathetic he is likely to be to you down the track.

i mean... he isn't being supportive sympathetic or honest with his current girlfriend. he doesn't exactly have a track record of pulling through with sympathy and support when times get tough (e.g., when it comes to his child).

if you get a little depressed is he more likely to be there with you being sympathetic and supportive or is he more likely to be flirting with other women and seeing which of them he can get in the sack?

'cause that part... is about where the real emotional connection and imtimacy lie. it isn't just someone who shows an interest contingently on his having a crappy time with his girlfriend right now. it is about someone who makes a committment to be there supporting you through the good times and through the bad times.

of course sometimes people don't give so much of a %#@&#! about that. just want to feel a little better now (i really do understand that one). just want to have a little fun. i guess my only worry is how many people he is likely to hurt with this one... and i guess i'd keep away 'cause i don't need that kind of pain. in fact... that kind of pain (when he drops the emotional support ball with you) is something that is more likely to lead to an episode of depression than anything else.

it isn't about 'better than' it is more about looking out for yourself. it is about deserving more than the fleeting kind of emotional support which seems to be all he is willing/able to provide. 'cause you know (from his history) that when times get tough he ain't gonna be there for you. sounds like he doesn't know how to be... and that is all very sad and all but he needs to want to change for his own reasons and i really wouldn't go there...