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Originally Posted by Lauliza
If someone can't handle it so be it, it doesn't matter. We are all different and have different strengths and weaknesses. What's stressful for one person is a cake walk for another and vice versa. A bad therapist is one that harms a person. A therapist who doesn't do therapy the way someone wants it may just be the wrong therapist, not a terrible one. Some are laid back, others hyper, some interactive, some blank slates. All client a can't see the same kind and all Ts do not do well with the same client. It's not always arrogance, it's also simply knowing what you can and can't work with. That goes for clients and Ts alike: but as far as I am concerned, if a T is so triggering that they invoke pure ire week in and week out, it's no different from dating someone that makes you feel the same way. Why in the world would anyone choose to spend their time this way? To each their own I guess. Hopefully most people in such situations would get another T or find something else to do that is less triggering.
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Because, unlike a date, a therapist is not a real person to me in their therapist persona. They may be real in their own life - but not when acting as a therapist.
And indeed -to each their own. But I am glad there are therapists who I can get to do it the way I find somewhat not unuseful instead of being one of these who fit the descriptions of controlling, thin-skinned, etc ones who become punishing and only want clients who will roll over and submit to the therapist's ideas.