We are all different and have different strengths and weaknesses. What's stressful for one person is a cake walk for another and vice versa. A bad therapist is one that harms a person. A therapist who doesn't do therapy the way someone wants it may just be the wrong therapist, not a terrible one. Some are laid back, others hyper, some interactive, some blank slates. All clients won't see the same kind of T and all Ts do not do well with the same type of client. It's not always arrogance, it's also simply knowing what you can and can't work with. It's actually more arrogant to believe you can be a great T to all clients and provide every client with what they want. It goes for clients as well and it's equally arrogant to declare what a Ts job description is based on ones own preferences or to believe Ts exist to be a silent whipping boy or girl. If a client is of fairly sound mind, then I hope that is not how they treat other human beings regardless of their profession. If a T invokes that much ire week in and week out, I can't imagine why anyone would want to see them. But, if client and T are ok with that, then no harm done. To each their own. If not, then I'd hope a client would find another T or something else to do that is less triggering.