Okay, so this thread has been totally hijacked.


So, my experience with this --


- I was willing to pay out of pocket (no insurance) to repeatedly tell former T how she'd screwed up (in general but especially with respect to a very specific incident that happened about 10 months ago and which never got resolved to my satisfaction).


- She was willing -- more than willing, went out of her way in fact -- to make sure that I kept showing up i.e., kept paying up and did not terminate (I did finally terminate).


- However, and here's the kicker -- she (who's psychodynamic) was not willing to make any space for my anger. Not at all.


- In case anyone would like to inform me that her unwillingness was a projection of my no-doubt crazy mind etc -- nope, I relayed exact words to other Ts I interviewed (who generally were notoriously unwilling to acknowledge that any T could screw up) and every one of them (especially current T) said that what former T said / did in response to my anger was out of whack (what they attributed the out-of-whack-ness to was what they differed in but no one disputed that her responses were nutso).


- So yeah, this stuff about Ts "ethically" not wanting to take a client's money "just to listen" to them express their anger has well........little to do with what I experienced.


- Whether Ts should or shouldn't be willing to work with a client's anger is a different issue. I think it's a rather poor T who is unwilling to do it for as long as the client expresses a need. But, I understand that like every profession, there are a lot of lousy Ts out there and clients with low expectations of Ts (supply and demand etc) and so, if the "fit" in that sense exists, who am I to question?