I wouldn't give her any advice. But here's my advice for you: Don't let her hang on to you, as her security blanket when things between her and him get rough - as they will. She needs to pick a relationship and commit to it. Keeping you, on the side, as her special confidant, would mean she's not really committing to being with him.

The best thing you can do is not hang around hoping she'll come back to you. She's just not that into you. She still loves him. That crap about wanting to have an unbroken family is just something she said to try and spare your feelings. She doesn't want to come out and tell you that she prefers him to you.

What you need to understand is that women are capable of staying in love, even after being abused. She's going back to him because she wants him.

Some abusive men have charisma. Some women get hooked on that charisma, despite the abuse. Some of them never get to where they can love a man just because he's a good guy. You'ld be smart to avoid women like that. They'll only use you.