Sorry you are leaving us

I read through your post and responses on this thread and it struck me how honest you are, and that takes bravery. I think 'owning' our own part played in our situation is a pivotal part of beginning to change it.

I have a dear friend who tells me very earnestly if I had met him 15 years ago I would not have liked him - I find this very hard to believe but he assures me it's true. He was at a place in life where he was unhappy and describes himself then as being "a miserable f*****".

It's hard for me to know how exactly he changed, but as he describes it following a very dramatic close call he realised how far off his life was from where he wanted it to be. He changed his job to one which fitted him better, he reassessed friendships and stopped pursuing toxic ones, he found that in he had more time then to meet new friends and develop those friendships. In short he changed his environment, it was his environment which was making him unhappy.

Peace to you