Well thanks for your optimism but I don't see things improving at all. Our relationship is little more than a col war stand-off, just bearable as long as she not in the same room I am, and downright depressing when she is.

She is clearly not interested in a stand-off either, nor is she interested in any kind of mature relationship. So things will just keep getting worse until I fall back in line and fulfill my role as personal assistant, excuser, therapist, daddy, lover and allround punching bag for her.

I've already given her the proverbial "carte blanche" as far as our relationship is concerned, and specified that she is 100% free of any bond to me and to seek love and adoration elsewhere, and i wouldn't even demand the same liberty for myself, as that is just not my goal.

But she just wont move on...

No idea what else i can do, and I do need to do SOMETHING because this situation is no longer tenable. I thought she was bad before, but now she's just plain horrible, and not just to me but to the kids as well. If you thought it wasn't healthy before when we were simply detached, now it REALLY isn't. This morning I had a plate thrown at me, and my dodging it cause it to nearly hit my daughter in the head. This situation is spiraling out of control, but I'm just not sure what i can do that will not automatically result in shooting myself in the foot. If only i could figure out what she actually wants from me, I could find some way to appease her into just buggering off.

If only our genders were reversed, I'd have a court order and have her kicked out of my house by the end of the frickin DAY.

This is Sparta... ffs...