I have trouble believing that our loved ones sit around in "Heaven" and "watch" us, like they have nothing else to do, and thus are on the "sidelines" because they're not living their lives anymore? I don't think we "leave" here just to be sidelined! And how far back does one go? I have a feeling/affinity for my great grandmother who died 10+ years before I was born; how about my great great great great grandmother? How long does a person's Spirit hang around just "for" me to discover/think about/need it? What happens to my great grandmother's Spirit I "needed"/thought about, etc. when I die? I tie myself in knots sometimes thinking about my father, mother and stepmother (and her first husband) in "Heaven" and how that works :-) Or what would I say to my mother who died when I was 3? I'm a grown woman and even if she has "seen" me grow up, etc. the "relationship" has changed from the one we had so we can't know one another in "that" way anymore?

I guess I'm more of a believer similar to C.S. Lewis in his book, The Great Divorce where people go on "further in" but can choose to come back to "meet" others of us when we die and help us then with understanding/Eternity.

But I do like the idea that the Spirit of someone's Spirit? could still be available to me now if it would be helpful to me? Anything could be possible. I do believe "God" is aware/"in charge" and that it all "works".