I definitely agree with that last part - that if therapy is not useful, it's not because the client failed at it somehow. I'm pretty certain that this is the reason I went so many years between t2 and t3 - because I thought I failed with t2, so I figured I was just a failure overall. I know now that it was simply that we were not a good match therapeutically, and nothing more. If anyone was at fault, it was her, because with her training, I think she should have recognized it sooner. (I saw her for about 6 months before I decided she wasn't helping, and just stopped scheduling sessions. I wish in hindsight that I had told her why I was quitting.)