It is extremely exhausting...I can relate. I have strong emotional reactions to most things in my life when my expectations are not met: even when I try not to set them so high. The urges to react on my emotions in destructive ways pop up....and I try to hold back, but it's so draining. I wish I had some good advice to offer. I do try to use the DBT skills from workbooks and online, which includes "distress tolerance skills" and emotional regulation. I guess it's just one day at a time.