I think a great deal of the success of therapy lies in the perception of the client. What I mean is that if you have a mindset it won't work it never will. If you have the mindset I'm going to make the most of it you will probably have success. I personally know people who complain and complain about their therapy and psychiatrists being useless yet I know for a fact they have done nothing and have made no effort on their parts to make therapy work. Simply put, unless it is set up for succes, it will fail. So too I think we need to ask ourselves what is a reasonalbe measure of success and will I recognize that when it comes. Finally there is no magic wand. I don't think it is fair to walk into a session expecting immediate change. I have noticed amongst some in my support group this seems to be their attitude.

It is like learning to drive a car from an instructor. The instructor doesn't make you a good driver of a car. They instead guide you and give you skills - you have to be willing to learn them and ready to observe and accept them when they come. You also have to be willing to accept criticism and learn from mistakes made. You don't have to like your instructor to learn from them. When, come the end of the set of classes and you are not yet ready for your test you need to aks yourself if you did everything you could. Only then do I think it fair to consider a new instructor.