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Originally Posted by RxQueen875
Yes rose is right. You can always get your own place and be an introvert there. You need to find independence. I remember when I was your age, I lived alone and I was wild. I have regrets but at least I can say "been there, done that". Now I'm 29 and quite the introvert lately. I can't work right now because of my MI and I depend on my bf and only leave the house when I really need something. It's a crappy feeling to NEED someone at this age ya know? You deserve a life of your own and I'm sure if your parents ever needed help then your siblings would step up. I also know what it's like to be in the shadow of a younger sibling. My little sister is thriving in ways I never did and I'm the black sheep of the family. She too resents me and says nothing's wrong with me blah blah. I get it. You have an income... Can you move out?? Maybe look for financial programs for your parents like rose said and get yourself some therapy.
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My siblings can't and won't help. My big sister has a baby and her own life and as I mentioned, she expects me to help my parents and to get a life of my own. Whenever she comes home she always asks "you're still helping them right?" - I've had countless arguments and tried to point out that I couldn't possibly help AND save up to move out. She doesn't get it and get's mad when I tell her the things she won't hear. I have a very low income, and I can only pay for my transport to school and then give the rest to my parents. Whenever I have a bit of work or sell something, I give it to them. We've hit the bottom quite a few times but I "saved" us by selling something of my own.
Moving out, as stated above is just not possible. At least not for a few years until I get a real job after finishing my studies. There's no programs in Denmark, as the system has changed from being favorable to a punishment. I get the lowest amount because I live at home.