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Old Sep 10, 2016, 05:32 PM
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Originally Posted by RxQueen875 View Post
Yes rose is right. You can always get your own place and be an introvert there. You need to find independence. I remember when I was your age, I lived alone and I was wild. I have regrets but at least I can say "been there, done that". Now I'm 29 and quite the introvert lately. I can't work right now because of my MI and I depend on my bf and only leave the house when I really need something. It's a crappy feeling to NEED someone at this age ya know? You deserve a life of your own and I'm sure if your parents ever needed help then your siblings would step up. I also know what it's like to be in the shadow of a younger sibling. My little sister is thriving in ways I never did and I'm the black sheep of the family. She too resents me and says nothing's wrong with me blah blah. I get it. You have an income... Can you move out?? Maybe look for financial programs for your parents like rose said and get yourself some therapy.
My siblings can't and won't help. My big sister has a baby and her own life and as I mentioned, she expects me to help my parents and to get a life of my own. Whenever she comes home she always asks "you're still helping them right?" - I've had countless arguments and tried to point out that I couldn't possibly help AND save up to move out. She doesn't get it and get's mad when I tell her the things she won't hear. I have a very low income, and I can only pay for my transport to school and then give the rest to my parents. Whenever I have a bit of work or sell something, I give it to them. We've hit the bottom quite a few times but I "saved" us by selling something of my own.

Moving out, as stated above is just not possible. At least not for a few years until I get a real job after finishing my studies. There's no programs in Denmark, as the system has changed from being favorable to a punishment. I get the lowest amount because I live at home.
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