((((Shy Introvert))))

Sounds like an ordeal with her. Also sounds like your dad sees right through it, otherwise he wouldn't have placed you in this future position. Does your mom know?

I have a half sib, 16 years younger. She's my father's other daughter from his other marriage. I wasn't raised with her. The lack of any semblance of a bond never developed due to poor parenting on my father's part, the blow to his fragile ego from my mom leaving him when I was 9, played a role. As I remind him of my mom. I lived with him up until a month and a half before my half sib was born. At that point, he was headed back to Maine to teach, after uprooting me from there 18 months prior. He had a shotgun wedding of sorts when my stepmom was pregnant and as truth came forth recently, I would have been a burden as she stayed in MA with her 2 kids from a previous marriage and a newborn. That's not how it played out at that point, only in hindsight. So, I was painted as that troublesome daughter that would be better off with her mom. Mind you I was a good kid. His and my relationship severed and she's the one that needed all his attention. There's just not much there between her and myself. She also said some rather mean things in her teens and though she was a teen, she's older now and it's as though she's some distant relative.

Yes, there's been mean things and hatred. Not sure that I'm on her hated list, but I'm not on her let's move forward list either. I wasn't pushing to get him to return from the West coast like she wants. She sees him as she's expressed as someone that needs caregiving. I see him as a grown man with a new live in girlfriend who is finishing divorcing her mom. He's capable of making his own choices.