You have the right to stay in the car and not go into the store.
You have the right to be a bit crabby if you are under the weather.

I'm not clear about the part of not listening to him? Is it because he didn't catch your attention and your focus was elsewhere? What type of things are you not listening to?

I also find discomfort reading about your apologizing for various things. To me, it's a flag, only because of my experience in my marriage where an apology was soothing and enabling his poor choices in behavior. "If only I hadn't done x-y-z, then he wouldn't be so raging angry" and I found myself apologizing for things that didn't warrant an apology. And xyz could be having worn makeup and him noticing some guy looking at me. Or because I didn't answer the phone on the first ring. Or because I was caught in traffic. That's why I ask.

Why apologize for being human?