Hi Tucson,that sounds very unpleasant. I was raised to feel huffy and insulted if someone slighted me. In fact, my mother would find slights all over the place, and cause me to quit my friendships. Now, this does not bother me at all -- what does enrage me is rudeness. Mostly "unseen" cyber or telephone rudeness. But I've also gotten upset at in-person rudeness. I think what got me over the bad feelings about being slighted was something enlightening I got one time in a women's therapy group. The therapist said, "If somebody says you are.....[too tall; too short; too fat; too thin; your voice is too soft/loud or whatever] this is NOT TRUE OF YOU. The ONLY thing it means is that the person making the accusation has a PREFERENCE for someone who is a way that you are not. Other people like your own qualities a lot! " I'm really going to study the article I just referenced in my previous post.