Slow down; put your relationship first. If your relationship isn't healthy and your priority, you won't be bringing a child into a healthy environment anyway. You have time to get that in line first, and you owe that to your spouse and to any child you bring into that relationship. If you aren't willing to do that, you aren't ready to have a child. You CAN wait a year while you get your house in order so to speak. Get established in your job, plan your wedding, have your wedding, have a honeymoon if you want. Then, down the road you'll be in a better, more stable relationship position, reading to bring a third person into that relationship because that is what having a child does. You BOTH need to be on the same page about this or having a baby will be a strain on the relationship.