Hi wolfeyes....
.....I'm sorry that you have experienced and are experiencing such struggles in your life- I can identify with the abuse from childhood to adulthood....both public and private....sorry.
Sybil was a well known publicised case, but for the most part, DID suffers are hard to detect and may take years to diagnose. Other Specified Dissociative Disorder (OSDD) have alter states also.
Not all alters have names....we tried real hard to be stealthy and unnoticeable that we didn't individualize till of late.
Sometimes things disappear right in front of me, things get done, time jumps, and sometimes I question the things that I did, like "wha?" But thats me....everyones different.
Finding a decent therapist is like finding a used car. You keep test driving til you hit the ride that you are happy with.
I hope that this one works out for you.