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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
Ex-T had me wait 24 hrs before sending an email. I had to sleep on it and then summarize it before I sent it. Current T, I set my own boundaries. I don't go into too much detail in my emails. And I only email if I really need to.
For example: these past 2 weeks w/o her, she wanted me to go w/o looking at her photo. I used her photo to comfort me when we missed a session, but sometimes I'd obsessively look her up. Well, I lasted 8 days...crying, anxious, thinking about her non-stop, desperation. I gave up and emailed her saying I couldn't and wouldn't do it anymore. (She said okay). My point is I did my best to hold onto feelings for as long as I could. I still emailed in the end, but I didn't feel guilty about it.
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Maybe I will try the 24 hour thing. We'll see.
Gosh I'd be upset not being able to look at T's pic. I obsessively look T up too, to look at him and to see if he has changed his site (he never has).