I don't mean that she should choose between you or anything like that. I just mean that sometimes she might like both of you to be there but othertimes she might like some special time with her mother.

I would have found it hurtful if someone said that I was trying to replace someones mother. I think that so long as the kid wants to see the bio mother and the bio mother wants to see the kid and you are okay about letting her bio mother emotionally support her and spend time with her and stuff then... It is a wonderful thing indeed to be surrounded by people who care about you. There are so many people in the world who aren't loved. If she has three people who love her then she is very lucky indeed.