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Old Sep 11, 2016, 10:47 AM
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Originally Posted by atisketatasket View Post
No. If they ask how I think they're doing, I will tell them, or if they screw something up, I will let them know.

In my opinion, placating the therapist by reassuring them like they were a preschooler that they're doing a good job or making them feel good about themselves so you'll stay on their good side is a) not the point of the therapy relationship, b) kind of manipulative, and c) for some clients probably replicates the relationships they have in real life, so, again, not the point of the therapy relationship as well as stymieing any improvement by the client.
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Yes, I did replicate the relationship I had with my family. No therapist ever called me on it and I lacked a solid/strong enough sense of self to do otherwise. If it was "manipulative" it was automatic and had been developed for survival, not other reasons of personal gain.
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