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Originally Posted by BudFox
When trying out other therapists following destructive therapy, I felt like I was painted into a corner. I needed to say whatever I felt, and that included criticizing the previous therapist AND questioning therapy as a whole. But few of them appeared ready to tolerate this. Some of them almost instinctively tried to blame me, in an indirect way. Or they would suggest we talk about my underlying "issues" rather than what happened in therapy. I think this is quite a dangerous predicament. I can see how many clients would end up editing their thoughts, suppressing their anger, placating the new therapist to avoid trouble.
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If I'm honest, I don't find therapists suggesting talk about underlying issues in cases like this to be terribly unusual. With the therapy that ended badly for me, my conflict and responses were definitely related to underlying issues. Otherwise therapy would have been simply chats with a pleasant stranger.My therapist was clearly a **** in response, but I played some part in my therapy crumbling. Unfortunately since there's not much a new therapist can do about the old therapist, they work with the person they have in front of them.
The shame is that the real work now taken over by a new therapist would have been best done by the old therapist
