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Sep 11, 2016, 12:17 PM
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Member Since: Apr 2013
Location: Ontario Land
Posts: 3,592
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Originally Posted by Gs550
Well yeah I'm switching. Like, we'd talk about my social anxiety and she'd ask about how my parents socialize(d). Seriously, I can't just be shy? Like as a personality trait? It's gotta be something that screwed me up in childhood?
I wanted a plan for introducing myself to strangers, not dissecting my parents' social lives.
Anyway, I found a new therapist and I was very clear from the beginning that I wanted an active approach. I want to change behaviors, not ruminate.
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I never found talking about my childhood and parents very helpful either. I learn from therapy by discussing what happens in my real life as I work towards my goals. Social skills and understanding emotions are other things I work on, all without analyzing my parents. This approach has really helped me unlike ruminating.
Another thing that really helped me was getting a proper diagnosis. Before that I struggled with therapy, because it was assumed I had a certain type of history. No one really wanted to listen so it was hard to connect. A few therapists even tried to convince me I had repressed memories of horrific sexual abuse. This was very harmful.
Some therapists seem to believe we are all born with identical personality traits. This is BS. It is the main reason why I am not a proponent of pyshoanalysis. There is no such thing as one therapy that fits all, because we are individuals with unique personalities, histories and challenges.
I hope your new therapist helps you reach your goals.
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Dx: Didgee Disorder
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