I kind of agree with Budfox. I have been emailing my T less. First I started because it didn't want to bother her but after finding that hard and talking to her she said I can still email if I want to. She never me tioned not emailing or lessening them before I started to send less, I just did it to see what would happen. To see if I could manage without. She has always remained consistent about it. She replies within 24 hours normally and always replies to my text as soon as she sees it to acknowledge that I have sent an email and to tell me when she will likely get round to it. This consistency and availability has now naturally led to my being far less anxious about it and as such a less need to do it.

Had she been unavailable, unwilling to reply or inconsistent I think it would have driven me nuts and I would have struggled not emailing because I would still be wanting something I couldn't get, if that makes sense.

ETA, sorry OP, this is almost completely irrelevant to your post because I see you make no mention of your T being unavailable or inconsistent. Sorry, I think I got confused but I want to leave my post here because if these things were present then I do agree that it isn't always the clients fault they are struggling, the T has to play some part in it.

Anyway, I hope you can find a way to make this work for you, if it is what you want, which by the sound of it it is.