I have difficulty in my own group when things spiral out of control. I cringe, have to move around in my seat, clutch my purse, and just generally get uncomfortable. On occasion I get overwhelmed. While this goes on I cling to the hope the moderator can re-establish control of the meeting. But I think he is overly curious and doesn't always get it when someone goes off topic or talks inappropriately.

It is even worse when these things are triggers - and it even not be necessary it is about me. I would be just sick over your example for instance if I were sitting there of someone asking about your scars..

I have issues too when I see something wrong happening that are out of my control or I can't help. I struggle so much when people are being wronged. As for the incident with the fellow's caregivers regarding psychiatric help I would have been furious! I'm not so sure I wouldn't follow them outside to confront them.