Out of all the relationships I have been in, all of them have been long distance in the Los Angeles, California area's, the distance being anywhere from 50 miles to 60 miles, which is about 45 minutes to 1 hour drive time. 1-2 hour riding the bus and train system.

This current guy I have been dating for the past 2 months, and been on 4 dates with, him and I live 50-60 miles a part, he works about 45 minutes a part from me. His work schedule as he says, makes it hard for him to date, but to me, I call that BS. He works Monday through Friday 8AM to 6PM having to get up at 6AM to be at work by 8AM.

So my thing is that I love going to concerts, so concerts can pop up throughout the week, Monday through Sunday, and if a band I want to see pops up on a Tuesday night, and I ask him "Hey let's go to this show, the band doesn't play til 9PM. I got the free tickets, you just pay for parking $5-10 bucks".

If he gets off work at 6PM he could easily be at my place to pick me up by 7 if not 8 and then we can off to the show, be there by 8:30, just in time to catch the band who will likely play a 90 minute set, so we'd be outa there by 11PM if not midnight 12AM. Then time it takes to get back to my place, about 20-30 minutes from the concert, and then he has to drive home at 1AM most likely, him being home by 2AM-3AM and him getting a little bit of time sleeping, since he has to be up at 6AM.

He says he can't do this, due to what I just described, when yet I had my ex's do this and they hardly ever complained about it. I want to be able to take this guy to shows but yet he won't make the effort to do it.

I have heard if the guy really is interested or likes you he will make the time for you, and do whatever for you, to make you happy etc. No matter the time, distance, driving, etc.

But to me, hearing him not want to do it, due to the distance, driving, and it being during the week, come on now. Your 35 yes thats old but come on you can do it, I know others who are older 40's or 50s and do this, how come they can do it and you can't?

What would you do if you were in this situation?