My son is ADHD and had been diagnosed with aspergers. They were not sure though about the aspergers. Anyway, he is so definant to the point of me wanting to leave when he is like this.

ARRGGGG. So frustrated with this kid. I love him dearly but days like this are too much. He was on meds before and we all saw a great improvment; except his dad. His dad had told our own son that he was not going to allow him to be on this medication, or he will be just like his mom. JERKKKK. Anyway my husband (at the time) won this fight in Court. We were already separated and had filed for divorce. I had custody at the time so my son was getting his meds with me. Problem was that when our son was with him or his grandparents (on his side), they would not give it too him. So my son's doctor said that this could not continue. We ended up in Court and by law we can't force him to give him these meds. I had letters from my son's doctors, the school, a pdoc from out of town (which they brought in just for our son as he is highly recongized); and they still could not enforce this in the Courts.

In the end we had no choice but to take him off. His doctor said we can do more damage by jumping our son on and off meds then to not have any at all.

My son has gone up and down at times. He had worked really hard on his behaviour and school work and had done an excellent job. He has always had assistance with an aide at school and I took some courses to help manage at home. He was doing okay, but then I lost custody because of my mental illness. It went downhill from there. My son was harming himself and this was witnessed. He came to me on my access days with bruises all the time. He made extreme scratches all over his face at school, ate out of the garbage can, beat some up (another child), and decided to not use the washroom when he needed to relieve himself; all in a week. Ended up with a suspension. This continued so I started to fight this again with the Court system. Child welfare was brought in. Constant battles with lawyers (which I will never be able to pay off in my lifetime). It did not stop for an entire 2 years. I had to go to legal aid to find that I had to do all the work. This one lawyer made me come in to HIS OFFICE and prepare my own affidavit on his computer. I have done 80% of the legal stuff when I had no clue what I was doing. One of my affidavits got thrown out. My lawyers through legal aid did not care and did not even look my work over. I had to go private. Now I owe my bf 20,000 dollars. And still owe legal aid 3,500. And owe the home assessor 1,500. Pooie.

And where did it get my kids?? Yes, with me but I still have to have "permission" from my ex for anything. We have joint custody, I can't place our son on meds without consent. He is so hard to deal with right now. Phone calls from the school lately. His behaviour is unacceptable yet this boy needs help. I am at a loss, what do I do?????? I am so thankful that as much as he may behave this way sometimes, his school work is great. He brought home 3 tests; lowest mark being 94%. He is smart!!

Sorry, I really needed to vent this. I will take any suggestions??? I know many of you deal with this so I would be more than happy to hear what u have to say. I would appreciate it very much. I really need some advice. Thanks for listening.

Justy