Already Christmas is a day that I don't cook. When I was very young, Christmas was low key, my grandparents lived on a farm. Which means work was everyday. After my mom remarried, my stepgrandmother put on these feasts that were large and family would come in throughout the day. Then we had years when my stepdad was ill.
I do cook a traditional thanksgiving meal with some various family recipes.
My traditions have changed through the years as family members are no longer with us. A couple of times we've gone out for Chinese for Christmas.
I never cared for feeling obligated on holidays, so I don't want to do that to my sons. Meeting at restaurants is an option when they become adults. I'm thinking meeting out of town is a possibility as well. Or they can request a dish for me to make. I don't know what the future holds. I only know that I expect no drama on holidays. And they aren't obligated if other opportunities arise.