I'm so sorry. That's an awful thing to go through. It's got to be one of the most hurtful things that can happen, especially after that much time.

Generally, I see people on threads here talking about diving into marriages or home sharing with people I think they should get to know better first. But there is also such a thing as having a courtship go on too long. Then, I get the feeling that one of the parties is getting their time wasted. Can you talk a little about what occurred over the course of the seven years. Had the two of you moved in together at some point? When did getting engaged happen? Seeing the timeline of events might shed light on this whole situation.

What your ex-fiancee is telling you all sounds kind of vague. Maybe she really is going through a period of confusion in her own life, or maybe she has been less than candid with you. In any case, it does sound like she is bailing and not coming back. Ill try to look at your other threads to learn a bit about what you've been through.

This is a painful time for you, no doubt. I don't know that "friendship" with her is going to be much comfort to you anytime soon. Do you thing she might have gotten involved with someone else?

There's an explanation behind this, I believe, and IMHO it's probably not as vague as she is making it sound. It does sound like she may have a capacity for cruelty that you didn't expect. It seems you may have never really known her.