Then you do what good parents do. You do absolutely everything you MUST in order to take the best care of your children that you can. That includes pushing yourself beyond what you think is imaginable. That means doing absolutely what makes you feel uncomfortable if that is what it takes to be the strongest, healthiest person you can be, because that is what you owe to your children. They deserve no less.

If having children is your goal, then you push yourself into therapy, you push yourself through that hard, uncomfortable work because that is how you get there. There are no shortcuts that will lead you to feeling better, to being a good parent. It's hard work. It requires sacrifice. It requires much of the time placing the well-being of another human being as so important that you will do whatever it takes to give that child a healthy parent and a healthy family.

People should not have children to make them feel better. People should have a child with every intent of giving that child a healthy, loving, nurturing home and providing THE CHILD a fulfilled family life and future. In your case, that has to start with you becoming a healthier individual. It won't work the other way around.