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Originally Posted by Rose76
From your other threads, it looks to me like the ending of this relationship left you high and dry for even something as basic as a place to live. An engagement going on for 6 years is a sign to me of someone not really wanting to commit to the relationship. If it was her who just wanted to be perpetually engaged, but perpetually avoiding marriage, then that was your major sign there of something profoundly wrong.
I happen to think that it is awfully wrong to keep stringing someone along, while you keep one foot poised to leave. I'm guessing that was her stance. You sound like you were all in for a permanent committment.
Did the two of you ever discuss marriage? Not that I believe that's a must. I am with my guy 32 years, and we've never married. But we've never called it an engagement, either.
So where you were living was more her place than your place? See, that right there tells me this was a very unfair arrangement.
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We actually did discuss marriage, as I said we were engaged, I had proposed she had the engagement ring and all, we had just not been financially able to have the wedding and everything that she wanted. Earlier this year we had talked about purchasing a house moving closer to a new job she has gotten, and finally getting married, had even started looking at some houses, things were starting to come together... then she suddenly drops this on me...
The house we were living in was owned by her parents and we were renting it from them, so they had talked about selling it and then we were going to buy a house like I said closer to her new job...but when she dropped this on me I wasn't given any options, other then move out, not even move into an extra room, because she said we would be nothing but angry and bitter, and she said we both knew it, but I know I could have been ok with it, because I wouldn't have had any other option, and for the sake of the situation that's just how I am. But also I havent been angry and bitter towards her during this whole thing which I guess I have a right to be but havent.