I totally get this,, the therapists who have been like "friends" to me, never helped me. My T now is a psychologist and is not like a friend at all, but , the relationship buiding, trust building is an important part, now I trust him.. and I think even more so because he isn't a friend type.. he's professional and expert at what he does and has helped me a ton. I hope you can find someone that can help you with this. Its not their job to be your friend or your job to be theirs. totally get this.