Well, first of all, it's good to read that you are making an effort to be sober. It's also good that you have finally been diagnosed with ADHD so you can learn about it and finally understand yourself better.

As far as your struggle with finding someone you can have a relationship with, that can be a challenge for everyone. And instead of focusing on that right now, it's better that you take time to learn about what makes you tick and how to manage the challenges that present with ADHD, but also learn how you can actually achieve and do well in spite of it.

It's not unusual for someone who struggles with ADHD to have some self esteem challenges. A lot of individuals who struggle and have self esteem problems because of it have also used alcohol to self medicate. My husband has ADHD and Dyslexia and he used alcohol to self medicate, was a binge alcoholic. It was not unusual for him to also like using cocaine and speed as these drugs tended to calm him and he felt more focused, and these drugs tend to be a draw for individuals who struggle with ADHD because stimulants tend to have the opposite affect and can bring calm and focus.

My husband's binge alcoholism affected our relationship and marriage. It was very hard on me and I gave him an ultimatim where if he did not get help and change, I was going to leave him. He went to an AA meeting and that is where he did realize he had a problem. He just celebrated 25 years being sober. However, he did not know he struggled/struggles with ADHD. A lot of the individuals that are involved with AA and need that support to stay sober are individuals that struggle with ADHD and are not aware of it. When I went to meetings with him, I began to recognize the red flags so many of these individuals shared in common, and that was even before I learned about it myself. You are definitely not alone in having this challenge and it doesn't mean you are meant to struggle or are "less than". If you learn about yourself you can make life choices where your challenges are not a problem, can even be helpful believe it or not.

Twenty-seven is still young and it's good that you now have a diagnoses and can begin to learn about how you tick and where your challenges are and get so you understand yourself better and discover your "strengths", because there "are" strengths that people who have ADHD have that can actually be an advantage they just don't realize.

It is better to learn about "self" before one is in a long term relationship too. There is not such thing as the "average person" either, we are all unique and being unique is "normal to human nature".