I think you're really brave putting yourself out there with the online dating thing, I'm not single but pretty sure I'd not be so brave if I was.

I think it's not easy finding that 'whole package', someone who is really compatible with you, you only have to look around to see that with the number of failed marriages and relationships. Even when you find someone special it's not always easy to make it work.

Do you have interests and passions which you pursue? Maybe joining up clubs/groups might be a way to meet someone like minded. Or maybe there is a dating site for your interest group, someone close to me met a guy through a newspaper they both read, there was a dating section - it meant they had similar political viewpoint/intelligence/educational level.

I think if guys are off-put by your life circumstances and challenges then it's good they've cleared off and saved you heartache at a later point. Not everyone would be, indeed some might face similar challenges themselves.