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Originally Posted by healingme4me
Doesn't sound like she received any amount of guidance/counseling/support regarding her parents divorce. If she knows it affected her in communication, then it was her responsibility to find effective ways of communication and understanding herself to the point of not sabotaging her own relationships. Already my eyebrows were raised about this notion of not discussing things that were or seemed argumentative. Because that would be her cue/reminder of what precedes divorce? And then to just walk away and leave you stranded, so to speak? ��
I'm as lost as to why she ended the relationship as you.
Does she struggle with friendships or work? Does she have her own hobbies?
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*I had typed out a reply and it didnt post so if a double posts my apologies*
She has a lot of "friends" on Facebook but as far as friends that she went out with and did things with no, she had started over the past maybe 8 months to year, wanting to start going out the the clubs and drinking and getting drunk and stuff again... I thought she had gotten that all out of her system in the beginning of our relationship....but I had told her I really had no desire to do that all again...an she had a friend she used to work with that she talks to that she wanted to go out to eat with and go out drinking with and go to her house and get drunk and stuff...Thats all this woman does....and when I told her I had no interest in doing it, she came up with the whole thing that I hated her friend and I didnt want her going out and having fun....I never told her I didnt want her going out, I just didnt want to....but then she came back with.. but then I leave you here at home alone.......I told her that was ok....but that wasnt good enough for her.......I do know for a fact since I have left she has been going out and gettin trashed.....the friday night that we broke up I stayed at a hotel that weekend, she went over to this ladies house and got trashed, and about 1am I got a text from her asking if I could come to our house and stay with her because she was really sick and scared to stay alone.....I informed her that I wasnt going to be around anymore to call when she got trashed to come stay with her anymore...
As far as work, she does fine with work...She has a new job she has been working about 6 months now... and she goes out to eat with a couple girls there at lunch, but she always says she doesnt make friends with people she works with...
As far as hobbies...the only thing she does is she runs, or jogs... and she does that for a little while, then she will stop... its just an on and off thing.. not something she keeps up with...she never sticks with anything... she gets on something and will be gungho and will do it for a little while then gets tired of it... Like she did the adult coloring books for a little while got all into them bought some expensive colored pencils and stuff... then just quit coloring in them....We got nice bikes for Christmas this past year for each other... $400 bikes...bought $100 rack for the car to carry them... because she wanted to start riding bikes for exercise ... we rode them a for a couple weeks...and then they sat in the garage..she lost interest...