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Old Sep 13, 2016, 01:28 PM
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I used the myself as an example in the OP, but I'm really interested in trying to say that narcissistic and even "malignant" narcissistic MOTIVES, as opposed to ingrained personality characteristics, are not inherently without value and thus need to be expunged from the personality, as I was sort of (but not entirely) able to do, to my detriment.

So, yes, if you feel threatened, perhaps unrealistically because of the PTSD, but still threatened, your narcissism as you described it, may well kick in. In my view, it's a lower-level "survival" motive. Are you familiar with the Polyvagal theory? That kind of speaks to that, as well as the 4 fight, flight, freeze, fawn responses that I think you mentioned.

I had a fractured, non-whole sense of self. So trying to get those split off/dissociated (because of trauma) parts to work, much less be, together has really been a bear.


I don't feel unrealistically threatened. I, like you, am complex, and actually I have complex PTSD. Since I don't have DID I can't advise you on that. Have you thought about cross posting to the DID forum? I don't see my tendency towards narcissism as a separate part of me. The internalized critical voices of my family, ex, and some friends are not me, but they are in me. That is what I want to expunge or silence. The way others have spoken to me has not been good. Now as an adult I can stay clear of those who hurt me.
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