I agree with Divine and DeepGreenSea. Asking a working adult to do so much driving and get 3 hours of sleep on a work night is unreasonable, especially since you barely know each other! I'm also on date 4 with the person I've just started seeing, and I certainly would not do that for her or ask her to do that for me. Losing sleep one night will affect him, his sleep cycle, and his work performance for several days. I know when I lose sleep one day, it takes several days to get back on track. And I'm only 31. Why not drive to his area and do an activity near him? Show that you can compromise 50%. Plus, why not spend your limited time together talking and learning about each other. It's hard to get to know someone in a concert setting; it's too loud to talk at all. Save the concerts for after you've already gotten to learn about each other. It's not unreasonable to ask a partner to go to one concert like this in a blue moon. It's just unreasonable right away, in the middle of the work week.